1️⃣ Word of Affirmation; Encouraging words, kind words, humble words.
2️⃣ Quality Time
3️⃣ Receiving Gifts
4️⃣ Act of Service
5️⃣ Physical Touch
I know vividly that almost everyone has one of the aforementioned as a primary love language and a blend of two, three, or all as a secondary love language. As a married couple do you know your spouse’s love language? What he or she desires and wishes you knew and do often and which will bolster the love you both share. Women are complex beings and are triggered by emotions they have to deal with innumerable thoughts going on within them at the same time, unlike men who take things one at a time. Women easily portray attitudes, that show they are not wanted, unimportant or their opinion doesn’t count, and men like to feel like the king they are. Don’t annoy or neglect your spouse to the extent they become bitter. If you want your spouse to love and respect you, never make them feel less of who they are.
Words of Affirmation, you affirm your spouse by encouraging them, showing him or her that you care, and letting your spouse feel important. Advise him, and never relent in appreciating him even when his flaws overshadow his strengths. Use kind words to each other, learn how to control your anger, and say nice things to your spouse even when you are angry. Being humble in your character and words can also be a way to affirm your spouse. Yes, humility is often seen as a sign of weakness, but only ignorant people think as such, apologize when you are at fault.
Quality Time. Women most especially want their husbands to spend quality time with them. It can be twenty to thirty minutes of your undivided attention, holding her hands, touching her hair, looking lovingly into her eyes as she pours out her heart to you. Women feel loved, secure, and safe when you give them attention even at the slightest things.
Receiving Gifts. How many times have you given your spouse a gift? Or do you wait till they are celebrating something, learn to give your partner a surprise gift because it is the best gift ever. You might not necessarily ask them what they want, but pay attention to their discussions most time they state it unintentionally.
Act of Service. What are the things you assist your partners with that you see them happy and smiling all through? You can assist each other with the house chores, don’t leave everything for your wife to do. Find out your spouse’s act of service and assist them occasionally. Always make them acclaim you are the best thing that has happened in their life.
Physical Touch. This doesn’t end in the bedroom alone, it should continue outside the bedroom. Some couples are so rigid that they behave like neighbors outside and even among families, not talking to each other, touching or holding hands, and sitting very far apart. Your spouse will always feel neglected by such an attitude. Your spouse should feel the connection always, touch each other’s hands, and arms while relaxing, and hold hands while taking a walk or shopping, not always though, but doing it more often keeps you closer as a couple. For men, their physical touch is mostly sexual intercourse, they are always ready, and as a wife satisfying your husband sexually should be your priority. You know the saying… a satisfied husband is a loving and caring husband.
When you love, love unconditionally
When you give, give with all your heart
When you work, work with zeal and strength.
When you learn, open your mind and accept mistakes.
When you correct, do it lovingly with criticisms aside
When you teach, teach with all your might.
When you give advice, be sincere in your approach.
What is your love language? Do you believe people have more than one love language? I would love to know in the comments. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. Thanks for reading