She was 18 years old when she got married. It is the story of a woman whose imperfectly perfect life today has made an impact on the world.
It is the story of a woman who in time realized that real happiness does not lie in success, money, and fame, but lies within. Real happiness lies in gratitude. She believed in the power of words because many people speak before they think. She values it because words can break you, make you, heal you, and damage your soul forever. So she always tries to use positive words in her life.
She belongs to a very conservative family where good daughters don’t say no to their parents. So when her father told her to marry at the age of 18, she just said yes. Two years after her marriage, she got into an accident, and her husband managed to jump out of the car but she couldn’t, she stayed inside and sustained a lot of injuries. Her arm, wrist, shoulder bone, and collar bones were fractured, her whole rib cage was fractured, and her lung and liver were badly injured. She couldn’t breathe, she lost urine and bowel control ans will have to wear a bag wherever she goes.
But the injury that changed her life completely as a person and her perception about living her life was the spine injury. Three vertebrae of her backbone were completely crushed and she got paralyzed for the rest of her life. She stayed in the hospital for two and a half months andunder went multiple surgeries, and was bedridden for another two years because of multiple infections.
She wanted to be an artist, but the doctor told her that can’t be possible anymore because her wrist and arm were so deformed that she won’t be able to hold a pen again. She was told that her spine injury was so bad and she won’t be able to walk again. She was told that because of her spine injury and the fixation she has in her back, she won’t be able to give birth to a child again..
That day she was devastated , she asked “why me”? She started to question her existence, that why is she even alive! That what’s the point of living if she can’t do all these and the most painful part, she can’t be a mother…what was the point of living when she has to be an incomplete woman for the rest of her life.
But one day she woke up and decided to fight her fears. Fear of unknown. Fear of known. Fear of losing people. Fear of losing health, money etc. She wrote down all her fears one by one with determination to overcome them even her biggest fear… divorce.
- The fear of divorce
She was trying to cling on to the person who doesn’t want her anymore, but she said not anymore and liberated herself by setting him free.
- The fear of not being a mother
Instead of dwelling on this, she realized there are so many children in the world and all they need is acceptance and there is no point of crying than to go and adopt, so she adopted.
- The fear of facing people
Because she couldn’t stand the sympathy people had for her, always treating her like a patient. But she conquered that fear by appearing more in public and sharing her story which has transformed so many lives. She started painting again, as well as modeling, she even joined the National TV of Pakistan, anchoring shows, and now, she speaks for the right of women and children.
This is the story of Muniba Mazari. A woman who did not let her deformity define her, a woman who turned her disability into ability, who chose to transform her life even when the world have given up on her. She chose a world for herself. A world that brought satisfaction, peace, laughter, great accomplishment, and gratitude.
This is the story that reminds us that when we think that our glass is half empty, always know that it is half full, it’s only in our mind.
Our major problem in this life as human beings are self created ones. We always expect ease from life. We always have this fantasy that life should be as we planned, and when it doesn’t, we fall apart.
It is okay to be scared, it is okay to cry, but giving up should never be an option. Failure should be an option because when you fail, you try again and again, but giving up should not be an option.
You don’t have to look good for people, you don’t have to be perfect because of what people will say.
What makes you perfect is when you make people smile.
What makes you perfect is when you try to do something good for people around you.
What makes you perfect is when you feel someone’s pain, and this type of feeling brings genuine connection.
Just because you’re in pain today doesn’t mean you will feel the same forever.
Be like Muniba Mazari, accept who you are, love yourself for who you are, overcome your fears, and be grateful for what you have, and you will see yourself thriving in a perfect world because you created it yourself.
